A Solid Friendship

My spring semester held a lot of ups and downs for me emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. And one of the biggest things that got me through this semester were the friendships that God placed in my life to get me through. I had continual support from a few of the core people in my life that meant the absolute world to me.

So what does a solid- and more importantly, God-honoring- friendship look like?

1 Thessalonians 5:11 says “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” So a God-honoring friendship involves continually building up each other and encouraging each other in every circumstance. Not only pointing each other down the right path towards Christ but also walking down that path with each other and encouraging each other every step of the way.

Colossians 3:13 says “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” A God-honoring friendship means forgiving the other person when they hurt you. That doesn’t necessarily mean letting that person back in and giving the same amount of trust that you gave them before but it means not holding a grudge against a person.

Ecclesiastes 4:10 says “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” This means that when we surround ourselves with other people who are striving to follow God, when one of us falls down or makes a mistake, the other people can gather around them and lift them back up and point them back towards Christ.

Proverbs 16:28 says “A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” God-honoring friendships don’t gossip and tear down other people for entertainment or enjoyment. This causes division and pain not only to the people being gossiped about but also to the people gossiping eventually. Discussing other people’s business always leads to pain that could have been avoided.

Proverbs 18:24 says “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Finding reliable friends that you know will keep you accountable and will point you to Christ in every moment is important. It will help strengthen your relationship with Christ if you have Christ-centered friendships.

Romans 12:10 says “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” When you find a good, God-honoring friendship, be devoted to that friendship. Just because it is Christ-centered doesn’t mean that you don’t have to continually be putting in the work to maintain it.

Proverbs 17:17 says “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” This means that in a God-honoring friendship, you are constantly loving the other person. Even when they hurt you. Even when they do something you don’t agree with. Even when they don’t show love to you. Like with forgiveness, this doesn’t mean that you have to ignore the harmful things that they did. But you can love them while not approving of the decisions that they make.

Friendships aren’t always going to be easy. They are going to be painful and they are going to be difficult and they are going to be taxing. It is never going to be a sunshine and rainbows thing where you never have any problems. You can both be striving to be like Jesus and have a God-honoring friendship but we are all human. We are all going to mess up. None of us are going to be perfect and do everything right every time. It’s a sad fact of life that we have to deal with until God calls us home. But that doesn’t mean that friendships aren’t 100% worth it. You have to find the right people, and you have to be that good friend, but good friendships that are focused on Christ are SO worth it and are so rewarding, even in the hard times.

I’ve been through a lot of friendships in my life. Some really great and some really painful. Some that have lasted my entire life and some that have lasted only a few months. But I am grateful for every single one of them and I wouldn’t take any of them back for one moment. Even when they caused me stress or pain. I wouldn’t trade those friendships and memories for completely rewarding and perfect friendships. God put those moments in my life for a reason and I think that’s important.

But I also think it is important to be working towards seeking God in your relationships, even if you haven’t before. There’s no better time than the present. If you want a solid friendship, it’s going to take work and effort to continuously be putting Christ at the center of that friendship. But it will be so worth it in the end and I strongly recommend it.

Having a friend that will pray for you before you even ask- and again when you do ask. Having a friend that will listen to you and see you in your darkest moments and still be by your side at the end of that moment, pointing you to Christ and lifting you up. Having a friend that will share in your greatest joys and thank God with you, but also sit with you in your hardest lows and pray to God for help. Having a friend that will give you advice that follows what Christ would want for you. Having a friend that will check on you when you are struggling. Having a friend that will send you Bible verses and show support for you in so many ways. Those things are all SO important and having a friend that will do those things is one of the most valuable things in life.

I’ve been blessed to have several friends that no matter what, are always pointing me to Christ. On the days that I struggle spiritually or mentally, they are the ones that I go to because I know that they will encourage me back to the right path. God put them in my life for a reason and I am definitely so thankful for that. One of the cups of boba in this picture belongs to one of my closest friends who is one of those people that I have always been able to count on- so yes, the boba is related to friendships and I didn’t just put it there because I like boba 😉

I pray that each and every one of you are striving to have God-centered relationships in your lives and that even if you don’t have it right now, you all will be blessed through experiencing a friendship that points you to Christ. No matter what, I would encourage you to be that person to others, even if you don’t always receive it in return. It is something that I am still working on myself but I believe it is worth the effort 🙂

Have a wonderful week and check back next week for another post!